Before Mindful Dating™ became a framework, it became a question. What are people actually experiencing before they've heard a single idea reframed? This series is the answer, collected directly from 882 real people at the moment they were ready to be honest.
Read the Research Free · All three reports on SubstackMost dating research starts with assumptions. This one started with a blank page and nearly 900 people willing to tell the truth about what was actually happening in their relationships before they knew what to call it.
The Modern Dating Pattern Report captures the real-time experience of 882 individuals at the exact moment they showed up to a Mindful Dating™ webinar. Not coached. Not filtered. Not retrospective. Their answers, their patterns, their words, collected over nine months and turned into the first original research series to come out of this community.
It is free. It is honest. And if you recognize yourself in it, that recognition is exactly where the work begins.
The full series is published on Substack and free to read. Each report stands on its own and deepens the one before it. Start with the overview, or go straight to the one that speaks to where you are right now.
The full dataset. The patterns nobody named. Nine months of real answers from 882 people who showed up ready to be honest about what was actually happening in their relationships.
The data on men's experience in modern dating is largely missing from the conversation. This report changes that. What the numbers actually say about what men are losing, and what it's costing them beyond the obvious.
The pattern that shows up most in women's data isn't about the wrong partner. It's about what gets abandoned in the search. This report names what's been happening in the background of every relationship you've questioned.
165+ questions. Your M.I.N.D. Profile™. A Clarity Card™ that reveals exactly what you've been bringing into every relationship, and what to do about it.
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