About Shane
I’m the founder of Mindful Dating™ and the creator of The Dating Diagnostic™. Through Mindful Dating, I help people make sense of repeating relationship patterns without reducing themselves or one another to labels.
The Dating Diagnostic™ is a practical assessment experience that helps people look at their patterns, needs, expectations, and decisions with greater clarity. It grew from a question I kept returning to: what’s happening beneath the label, and what would help someone understand it?
Why this work is distinct
Before building Mindful Dating and The Dating Diagnostic, I worked in technology sales and founder-led environments. I learned to listen for customer needs, spot product gaps, shape early sales motion, and build repeatable processes.
I bring that same curiosity to relationship work. I listen for the gap between what people say they want, what they believe is happening, and what repeated behavior may be revealing.
Two stories to start the conversation
Mindful Dating
How lived experience, curiosity, research, and community listening became a way to understand repeating patterns, self-abandonment, peace, and emotional safety.
Curiosity as a Business Strategy
In a technology sales conversation, I asked what a product was missing that kept a prospective client from buying. The answer revealed a product gap, led to a new concept, and helped close an $80,000 sale within 48 hours. The lesson stayed with me: data can show what’s happening; careful questions can reveal what to build next.
Research and public education
- First-party exploratory research: 882 unique respondents and 1,148 responses across more than 20 countries, collected over nine months.
- Eight published research reports and analyses.
- More than 90 educational and relationship-pattern sessions hosted.
- Public-development speaking in Tulum, Mexico; events and workshops in Bali, Detroit, and Miami.
- A business presentation for founders and businesses with Terra Business in Bali.
- Radio appearances, book-tour and book-fair events, self-publishing training, and weekly Mindful Dating community workshops.
The research is exploratory and participant-informed. It isn’t clinical research, and it doesn’t support population-representative conclusions.
Speaking and teaching
These photographs capture a Mindful Dating workshop and Shane’s presentation on Curiosity as a Business Strategy at a business conference.
Conversation topics
- Repeating relationship patterns and what they reveal
- Mindful dating without losing yourself
- Self-trust, peace, emotional safety, and intentional connection
- The gap between self-awareness and behavioral change
- Why people need explanations, not just labels, for their behavior
- Building The Dating Diagnostic™ as a relationship tool
- Curiosity, listening, and qualitative data as business strategy
- Turning customer insight into repeatable systems
Available formats
I’m available for podcast conversations, interviews, keynote-style talks, business presentations, panels, workshops, founder and product discussions, and documentary or television research conversations.
For more background, read About Shane, explore selected credentials, or see the research and reports.